Friday, 24 November 2006

Relationships

GOOD THINGS YOU CAN LEARN FROM BAD RELATIONS

Whatever happens, happens for the good might sound quite a clichéd idiom but it’s a fact of life for many who feel a soured relationship leaves behind a few verities of life which can help one in the long run and also a few well learnt lessons which you are not likely to forget in a hurry. Like it makes you realize how important it is to think well before you take a decision as important as marriage. Like Meena Kapoor who is a doctor by profession jokingly says, “ Just because I have had problems with my ex-husband I can’t overlook the good things I have learnt from him, I mean he taught me never to trust a man in my life again”. Like Meena there are many women out there who have experienced and have found their way. Because most of the good lessons in life come with those practical experiences.

But it is a good sign when you are able to look back at the past and laugh about it. Initially the laughter may seem a bit forced and a little rusty but once you are able to see it in perspective you know that even the worst relationship has left a positive impact on you.

When Nisha Shrama married her college sweetheart and later after five years split up with her husband she realized that she had actually mistaken a college infatuation as ab earth shattering case of true love.

At 35 today she is remarried and working as a creative head in an ad agency and feels that the decision she took back then was mature and well thought out, as she started feeling after marriage that she had changed herself and started thinking a lot like her husband. It was only after four years that the realization dawned to her that she had killed her dreams and was now living the life of a person who was completely different from her true self and it was at that point she realized that she had to move on and live life on her terms and so this time she chose someone like minded who would understand her. “Today when I am standing at the top of a heap with a new life, a successful career, I can look at the past with almost a certain kind of fondness. If it wasn’t for that bad relationship, I wouldn’t have been able to appreciate the fabulous relationship I have today,” says Nisha Sharma.

When Kangana Chopra got married at the age of 21 little did she know what she wanted from life. At that point of time marriage was all about what she saw in movies and she expected it to be all play and no work. She jumped at the first marriage proposal that came her way. “The first few months of marriage were blissful and things went the way I wanted them to go but it was only after a year that I realized that the realities of life were much different, as I was married in a joint family, I had a lot of compromises to make and it was then that I felt that a joint family is not like what you see in movies and personally it was not my cup of tea. So I felt that there was no point in carrying on a relation, which was not giving me satisfaction, and so I decided to forgo it and move on. Now I have decided that when I get into a relation it has to be a nuclear family,” states Kangana.

Whether it is learning what you want from life or thinking about a prospective marriage before taking the final plunge, a bitter relationship can also leave you with learning many brutalities in life. A bad marriage can teach a few lessons in life which become a part of an individual’s nature.

So what are the good things you can learn from a bad relationship?

1) Like all other phases in life, this too will pass. In other words all bad things can come to an end.

2) Don’t dream of a grand future. If it happens, great. But in pursuit of a golden dream, don’t mess up your present. It’s a good present that matters.

3) Change is the only constant thing in life. And thank god for that. Imagine being stuck in the situation with no hope of reprieve.

4) You become a much stronger person mentally. After taking on a creep you are ready to take on the world!

Indian Women

THE SHE ECONOMY

A change in outlook towards the 21st century women

§ By Nidhi Anand

Today’s women are not just a showpiece lying in the house. Today a woman moves hand in hand with the men and in some cases has also left men behind. Till some years back a woman was supposed to handle daily chores and found place only in the kitchen of the house. But today the scenario has changed; today a woman is not just subject to the four walls of a house, she is out into the world and ready to give the men a run for their money.

Whether in the field of business, media or even sports woman is leaving a mark in every field. Sania Mirza has risen as one of India’s biggest sport star. The 19-year-old recorded many firsts by an Indian in women's tennis while proving herself to be a genuine world beater. A leap of 175 places to reach a career high 31 in world rankings, a seniors' title, victory over two top-10 players and reaching the fourth round of a Grand Slam - a spectacular start to what should be a long and colourful career. It was the first time an Indian woman had gone thus far at a Grand Slam and she bettered that mark at the US Open, going one step further later in the year. She made the whole nation proud with her achievements but with fame came public scrutiny. An Islamic cleric issued a fatwa banning her from wearing short skirts on courts. Her comments on safe sex resulted in public activist groups burning her effigies and demonstrating in front of her house in Hyderabad. That is the plight of any Indian women who has tried to establish her identity in a men’s world. Besides her we also have women like Barkha Dutt who managed to do a courageous reportage of the Kargil war and also women like Ekta Kapoor who has the whole nation drooling over her daily dose soaps. How much ever people may criticize her work but she has emerged as a true winner. One key factor that differentiates these successful women from the rest of the lot is the fact that they had the determination to dream and also the confidence to make them come true. Contrary to popular norms are these savvy czarinas who have taken over the reins form their fathers. Destroying long standing traditions, breaking into another male-dominated bastion, they are packing in a quite a punch! Groomed to lead corporate houses into the twentieth century, daddy’s little girls are proving as savvy, diplomatic and as worthy of their financial salt as their male counterparts. Taking over from the likes of Brinda Khatau and Zeenia Lawyer, these daughters of business magnates are out to prove their mettle. Articles, reportages, literary works and masterpieces of art have been dedicated to the mission of asserting the woman’s position in a man’s world. A lot has been said and done to equate their stature and role, but this is not about that, as we are already in an era where this fact is an established statement. This is an endeavour to probe into the rationale behind the various facets of the contemporary woman, who on one side, is a jet setting, successful business entity, and a devoted mother and loving wife, on the other.

Till ten years ago women executives were few and far between but today women constitute a major percentage in the entity of any corporate organization. Today a woman has managed to prove to the world that she is much more than an ever caring and sacrificing mother. She has managed to convince the world about her capabilities and talent. The complain that most of the corporate women today have is although they are complete workaholics and are earning bucks it really doesn’t matter to them anymore cause they do not have the time to spend it. Besides that money has never defined their goals or identity. In fact they consider themselves as just a bunch of people who find their meaning in work. Recently Kiran Mazumdar-Shaw, chairman and managing director, Biocon, Chanda Kochar, executive director of ICICI Bank and Vidya Chhabria, Chairman of Jumbo Group recently secured a place in the Fortune magazine's list of the world's most powerful women in business. If this piece of news made every indian woman happy, another survey conducted by the Confederation of Indian Industries (CII) painted a very different picture of Indian women in the corporate world. Even today women constitute only six per cent of the total workforce, says the survey conducted by CII, which was released by Anu Aga, Director of Thermax Ltd. The survey, which covers 149 companies, focused on medium and large companies. While the number of women at the junior level is a healthy 16 per cent, this tapered down to a mere four per cent at the middle and senior levels. This ratio declines in the senior management positions, coming down to almost universal levels of male leadership in the topmost positions. Basically the three factors that are the cause of a low percentage of women in the corporate world are gender bias in recruitment, gender inequality and sexual harassment at the workplace. Though it's not explicitly exhibited, there is some kind of gender bias in many organisations. These mainly related to those regarding promotions, allotment of assignments - where men are preferred. For instance, women are not preferred in some functions, such as manufacturing/ production etc. And the main reasons behind this being security concerns for women and perceptions that women would 'not be competent enough' for these positions.

If the Indian corporate world does not get rid of these primitive notions, how can you expect Indian women to climb the corporate ladder? It's really ridiculous. If Barkha Dutt can report from war zone, why others cannot do the same in some other fields. A few of the factors that are related to women and the ones which are not taken into consideration are that of motherhood. Say for instance Sulajja Firodia Motwani, the mind behind Kinetic group of companies has been working non-stop for 13 years with just a four day break when her son was born. A majority of the organisations do not have any provisions for day-care facilities or the option of flexibility of timings for young/ expectant mothers and most women feel that their companies do not give adequate benefits which motivate women to join back after childbirth. Another problem that has always kept women aback while climbing the corporate ladder is that of sexual and physical harassment at workplace. Only about half the companies claim to have formal policies in place to deal with sexual harassment within the organisation. But for the majority there are no policies in place to protect women from harassment from a client or a vendor. In India it is mainly the mindset of the people that needs repairing only then will we be able to see a steady growth in the number of women opting for a corporate lifestyle. Whenever it comes to choosing a job, most women in India prefer an office which is close to residence. Besides, post marriage, women either leave the job or join another office, which is near to husband's working place. Basically, it's the woman who has to sacrifice.

But what has to be considered is that women at work should be more assertive about their abilities and rights and also should put in front of the management their limitations and restrictions also besides that the companies should have a relook at their HR policies especially keeping the women in their organization into consideration. Looking at the above picture one realizes the amount of progress that India is making over the year but giving it another glance one realizes that things are even today not as glossy as one gets to see. The horrifying incidents against women have not changed over the years. In fact study reveals that domestic violence in on the rise in the country.

It’s easy to dismiss it as just another fad. After all, in a country where twice as many girls as boys die before the age of five, where only 40% of women are literate as compared to 64% of men and harassment, if not death, for dowry is the fate of a large number of women. So now it is for us to realize that we do not have to look at just a small percentage of women who are running the economy but also had the major section of the Indian women population who is suffering even today. So that we can call our economy a SHE Economy in the true sense of the term.

global warming

WORLD ON THE BRINK

Reduce Global Warming before its too late.

§ By Nidhi Anand

Global warming is one of the most serious challenges facing us today. Carbon dioxide and other air pollution collect in the atmosphere like a thickening blanket, and traps the suns heat causing the planet to warm up.

Global warming mainly takes place due to emission of harmful gases like carbon dioxide from power plants and automobiles, this traps heat in the atmosphere and causes depletion of the ozone layer. In short, it is a man made problem, which is affecting all the countries around the globe. And more importantly the issue is of great magnitude because instead of finding a solution to the problem the rate of global warming is increasing at a faster pace.

Although local temperatures fluctuate naturally, over the past 50 years the average global temperature has increased at the fastest rate in recorded history. And experts think the trend is accelerating: The 10 hottest years on record have all occurred since 1990. In 2003, extreme heat waves caused more than 20,000 deaths in Europe and more than 1,500 deaths in India. And in what scientists regard as an alarming sign of events to come, the area of the Arctic's perennial polar ice cap is declining at the rate of 9 percent per decade. Melting glaciers, early snowmelt and severe droughts will cause more dramatic water shortages all around the world.

The events that foreshadow the types of impacts are likely to become more frequent and widespread with continued global warming. The various effects that are going to haunt the world in the near future are as follows

§ Spreading diseases

§ Earlier spring arrival

§ Plant and animal range shifts and population changes

§ Coral reef bleaching

§ Downpours, heavy snowfalls, and flooding

§ Droughts and fires

We all have to realize that to protect the health and economic well being of our current and future generations, we have to bring about an awareness among people and make them realize how important it is for us to reduce our emissions of heat-trapping gases and this is possible only with the help technology, know-how, and practical solutions which are already at our disposal.

They say acknowledging a problem is the first step toward solving it. In case of global warming we know we have a problem and the fact is we also know how to solve it but it

is only the lack of initiative, which keeps people aback from functioning with an ecological perspective.

There are many steps one can take right now to cut global warming pollution. First and foremost we should make conservation of energy a part of our daily routine. Each time you choose a compact fluorescent light bulb over an incandescent bulb, you'll lower your energy bill and keep nearly 700 pounds of carbon dioxide out of the air over the bulb's lifetime. By opting for a refrigerator with the Energy Star label -- indicating it uses at least 15 percent less energy than the federal requirement -- over a less energy-efficient model, you can reduce carbon dioxide pollution by nearly a ton in total. Also we should reduce pollution by vehicles and power plants.

We should put our existing technologies for building cleaner cars and more modern electricity generators into widespread use. We should also try and increase our reliance on renewable energy sources such as wind, sun and geothermal. We should indulge in manufacturing more efficient appliances and also help conserve energy to its utmost.